It’s not uncommon to feel like you need to keep your adoption to yourself. And, we have good news:
There are many adoption agencies that do a confidential adoption.
These adoption agencies will allow you to work with adoption specialists skilled at helping prospective birth mothers through their anonymous (also called “closed”) adoption.
If you’re ready to start the closed adoption process and want to speak to an adoption specialist today, you can reach out to us for help. But, if you would prefer to find out more about the agencies that do a confidential adoption, then continue reading.
Choosing Closed Adoption
Although it’s more common for prospective birth mothers to choose adoption with some degree of openness – meaning they have some contact with their child and the adoptive family – some women still prefer to choose a closed adoption.
The following adoption agencies can help you pursue a closed adoption:
What is a Closed Adoption?
A closed adoption – also referred to as a secret adoption or confidential adoption – is when a prospective birth mother chooses not to share her contact information with her child or the adoptive family.
The prospective birth mother will also not receive any of the adoptive family’s personal information. No one in a confidential adoption remains in contact.
Although you will not have access to an adoptive family’s personal information, the secret adoption agency you work with will ensure you get to choose the adoptive family for your baby.
Reasons You May Choose Confidential Adoption
Women choose to pursue a secret adoption for many different reasons. Although the following reasons aren’t all-encompassing, they represent some of the complex reasons why closed adoption is the best choice for some prospective birth moms:
- The prospective birth mother wants to keep their adoption secret from their friends and family. She may choose this secrecy because she thinks her family and friends will be unsupportive.
- The prospective birth mother is in an abusive situation and chooses to keep her adoption secret to protect herself and her baby.
- Some prospective birth mothers think they will heal from the adoption if they do not have contact with their baby or the adoptive family. They may feel that having contact with their child and the adoptive family would be too much to handle.
Some prospective birth mothers who consider closed adoption also wonder if there are agencies that help you give a child for adoption and hide your pregnancy. While it is difficult to hide your pregnancy physically, there are adoption agencies that can help you relocate to protect your privacy. Relocating may make keeping adoption a secret easier.
What Information do You Need to Give Anonymous Adoption Agencies?
Although adoption agencies will help you keep your adoption secret, you have to give an agency some personal information. But, this information will remain confidential with the adoption agency.
- Your first name
- Your social and medical history
- Your contact information
- Any information you’re able to provide about your baby’s birth father
- And more
Knowing you have to provide certain personal information could make you feel uncomfortable. That’s normal, and we understand. However, you may feel some relief knowing that your baby will benefit from the personal and medical information you give to the agency.
This information also will ensure your adoption is completed legally, that your parental rights are terminated correctly, and that all your rights are upheld.
How to Find Adoption Agencies That do a Confidential Adoption
By now, you may wonder how you can find anonymous adoption agencies to work with. Finding a secret adoption agency is easier than you may think.
All adoption agencies could be considered confidential because any information you give your adoption specialist is kept confidential. You are in complete control of what personal information you share with the adoptive family and the other people in your life.
Although you should feel comfortable choosing secret adoption if you know it’s the right choice for you and your baby, it’s important to know that most modern adoptions are semi-open or open.
What is a Semi-Open Adoption?
When you choose a semi-open adoption, you’re choosing to have mediated contact with your child and the adoptive family. You can choose the type of communication – and the frequency – you have with your child and the adoptive family.
What is an Open Adoption?
When you choose an open adoption, you and the adoptive family – and your child as they age – will have each other’s contact information. You can detail the type of regular contact you’ll have and how often everyone speaks, meets, or exchanges information.
When a prospective birth mother chooses a semi-open or open adoption, she’s able to get to know her child and the adoptive family. Many birth mothers enjoy these relationships and find that their open adoption helps everyone involved in the adoption.
However, we understand that semi-open and open adoption isn’t right for everyone – especially if your or your baby’s safety could be put in jeopardy because of this choice. You are in total control of the type of adoption you choose.
The following adoption agencies can help you pursue a closed adoption:
These adoption agencies will ensure all your confidential information is kept secret from certain people in your life.
Final Thoughts on Closed Adoption
The following are a few aspects of secret adoption prospective birth mothers consider before they decide that confidential adoption is right for them and their baby:
- Most adoption agencies provide closed adoption.
- When you choose a closed adoption, you will not get to build a relationship with your child or adoptive family.
- Closed adoption is a helpful choice for mothers who want to keep their adoption secret for various reasons.
If you’ve decided that closed adoption is right for you and want to learn more about the agencies that do a confidential adoption, you can contact us today for free.
