As a woman considering adoption for her baby, your biggest concern is likely finding the right adoptive family. But what if, after taking a look at different adoptive family profiles, you’ve clicked with a wonderful couple that lives out of state? Or what if you’ve come to the decision that creating some space between yourself and the adoptive family is the best option for your well-being? One of the biggest questions we get about adoptive families from prospective birth mothers is, “Can you give a child up for adoption in a different state? Can someone from a different state adopt my baby?”
If you’re working with a national adoption agency, you are more than welcome to find a family in a different state. When you’re looking for the perfect family for your baby, distance shouldn’t be a factor in your search. In order to find a family that meets your needs for an interstate adoption, we highly recommend that you work with a national adoption agency. Unlike a local adoption agency, you’ll be connected with different adoptive family profiles from across the United States — which may increase your chances of finding the perfect family that meets all of your expectations and desires.
With so many wonderful couples to look through, it may feel overwhelming. But don’t worry — your adoption specialist will do everything they can to help you find the perfect family for your baby.
Overall, the interstate adoption process is very similar when you compare it to placing your child with a family that lives in your state. Here are the steps you’ll need to take when giving a child up for adoption while the birth and adoptive parents are in two different states.
How Can You Put a Child Up for Adoption in a Different State?
Step 1: What are You Looking for in Adoptive Parents?
The first step, of course, is to find the adoptive parents. Many prospective birth mothers end up working with families that live in another state.
When you craft your adoption plan, you’ll fill out a form that will list your preferences in an adoptive family. You’ll be able to decide on things like:
- Age range
- And more!
Whatever you decide, your adoption specialist will work with you to make it happen. Even though you’ll be looking for adoptive families from another state, you’ll still have the same opportunities as every birth mother that we work with. If there’s a family that you really like, your adoption specialist will help everyone can get to know each other better through pre-placement phone calls, emails or even visits.
Step 2: Get to Know the Adoptive Family
After you’ve decided, “I want to give my child up for adoption to go someplace out of state” and you’ve successfully found a family, it’s time to start getting to know them. Even when giving a child up for adoption while the parents are in to two different states, you will have plenty of opportunities to get to know each other through phone calls, email, text messages and whatever forms of communication you’re comfortable with.
You adoption specialist will usually be the one to mediate the first phone call between you and the adoptive family. After that, the type and amount of contact you choose to have will be up to you. If you’d like, many adoptive families are will to travel the extra mile to meet you in person. If you’re sure that this is the adoptive family for you, this is a great opportunity to bond with them before your baby is born.
Step 3: Your Hospital Stay
Once the adoptive family knows the baby’s on the way — it’s time for them to travel to you! No matter what time it is, the adoptive family will be ready to depart at a moment’s notice to meet the newest member of their family. Your adoption specialist will be able to let the adoptive family know ahead of time exactly how you want your hospital stay to go, so they’ll be prepared when the big day comes. Even when you are placing your baby with parents from another state, you will be able to give birth in a hospital that’s close to home and convenient for you; the adoptive family will be the one doing all the traveling, so you can focus on having a safe and healthy delivery experience.
Step 4: Ensure all Adoption Requirements Have Been Met
One of the biggest differences when you are working with a family from out of state is the legal requirements that adoptive family must meet. While you won’t have to worry about any additional legal requirements in your adoption process, the adoptive parents will need to follow all of the Interstate Compact Placement of Children rules and regulations before they will be able to leave your state with the newest member of their family. This process will make sure that the laws of both states have all been met before the adoption can be finalized.
This process usually takes about a week or two to get through. While the adoptive family is waiting for the okay to head home, you can spend more time getting to know one another.
Step 5: Post-Placement Contact
If you choose to have ongoing contact with your child through an open adoption, you will still see plenty of the adoptive family, no matter how far apart you live. You can connect with one another through emails, phone calls, and even visits. Your adoption specialist and adoption attorney will be more than happy to assist with any post-placement contact questions.
So, if you’re wondering, “Can you put a child up for adoption in a different state?” The answer is a definite yes. If you’re thinking, “I need help with adopting my baby out of state,” contact an adoption specialist today.