Are you wondering what the process is for putting a child up for adoption? You may have already begun to research adoption and feel overwhelmed by the amount of information available. This guide is an outline if you decide to give your baby up for adoption. This will be different for every woman and the adoption specialist you contact will help you make a more detailed plan that fits your needs and your pregnancy.
If you believe that you are pregnant, you should visit your doctor or OB/GYN specialist to confirm that you are pregnant and to learn how your pregnancy is progressing. Whether you ultimately decide to choose adoption, parenting or abortion, you should begin to care for yourself and your baby.
The first few months of your pregnancy are very important to your baby’s development and health. Also, as your body undergoes changes and new stressors, it is essential that you begin to take care of yourself as soon as possible. Discontinue any alcohol or drug use immediately. Your physician will be able to give you detailed instructions on how to care for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy.
Understanding adoption is the first step in your decision-making process. If you have already decided that you would like to put your baby up for adoption, a specialist will help you make a plan and discover your needs during your pregnancy. If you have not made your decision, a specialist will explain the process to you and give you all the information you need to make a decision.
Your specialist will explain all of your options during the process and will help you determine how you would like your adoption process to continue. They will help you plan your labor and hospital stay and depending on your financial and social situation, they can direct you to government programs that will assist you with healthcare costs and groceries. They also can help you obtain housing, food and supplies, maternity clothes, and other items necessary as you continue with your pregnancy. They will collect your medical history and the medical history of the father if he is known. The agency will offer to provide counseling if you would like someone to talk to besides the adoption specialist during your pregnancy.
There are three different types of adoption that you can choose: open, semi-open and closed. You are able to decide what type of contact, if any, you would like to have with the adoptive family and the child. Some women choose only to receive pictures and letters once a year, but you could possibly be able to have in-person visits with the adoptive family, if that is your preference. It will be your choice as to the level of contact you will maintain and it depends on what type of relationship you feel comfortable maintaining with the adoptive family.
You are not required to choose the adoptive family, but many mothers enjoy the experience of learning about the family that will parent the child. The agency you choose will send you information about adoptive families so that you can learns about their interests, careers, parenting styles, and excitement to become parents through adoption.
Many women find that they form a connection with a family after seeing their profile and that their interests are similar to those of the birthmother’s. Once you have decided on a family, you can choose to have an in-person meeting or a phone interview with them. During this conversation, you will be able to get to know the family better and let them know your wishes during the rest of the process. You should be aware that the adoptive family will be very nervous and anxious during your first meetings, but feel free to address any concerns you might have.
You will have already gone over your hospital and delivery plan with your adoption specialist. Once you go into labor, you should notify your adoption specialist and they will contact the adoptive family if you would like them to. After you deliver you can spend as much time as you would like with your baby. Whether you had a natural birth or a C-section, you will most likely be discharged within 72 hours and depending on the state in which you live, you will need to sign the birth parent relinquishment papers before you leave the hospital.
Adoption is a lifelong choice and many women find that they need help after the relinquishment. The adoption specialist will be there for you not only during your pregnancy, but also after you have signed the relinquishment papers. They will help you work through your thoughts on the adoption and prepare you for the various types of emotions you will feel. The agency will also be in contact with you for the pictures and letters you will receive at least once a year.
Many women find that contact with other mothers who also put their baby up for adoption is helpful. The adoption specialist can put you in contact with other women who have been in your position and can even direct you towards local support groups if you are interested.
The adoption process is different for every woman depending on what she needs during her pregnancy and what she wants for her adoption plan. If you are considering adoption for your baby, you should call 1-800-Adoption to learn what your options are during your pregnancy.